Want to keep YOUR relationship alive? Try these FIVE things...
• “Thank you.” Psychotherapist and relationship coach Toni Coleman says, “Gratitude is something we all need and seek from our partners.” By saying thank you she says, “we demonstrate that we recognize our spouses’ contributions and value what they bring to our life and to the relationship. It also offers positive reinforcement that leads to a partner making a continued effort because what they do is recognized and appreciated.”
• “I appreciate what you do for us.” Consider this phrase the close cousin of thank you.
• “I’ve got your back.” Everyone needs a little reassurance — especially during the tough times that marriages face. That can be especially true when our partners let us down. When a partner screws up, this reassurance can go a long way to help them move forward in a positive direction.
• “You’re just right — just the way you are.” In your wedding vows, you offered your spouse unconditional love. And when you say these words “you’re offering that unconditional love,” says Coleman.
• “I care about your feelings and needs and value what you have to say.” While we don’t always have to agree with our spouses, fully listening and accepting them is still possible and essential when two people are struggling with an issue that they have very different feelings about or proposed solutions to.
Think these might work? Give 'em a try and let me know!