Thinking about marriage?
@gettyimages
I've been rolling this around a bunch lately. You can read into this what you want, but, long story short...
... my therapist told me to start keeping a sleep diary, that is, write down the thoughts I think about when I can't sleep... so I can fall asleep, and this, coupled with some conversations I've had with a situationship who has, honestly, stuck by me for two plus years so far while I've figured some things about me out... from personal life, to parenting life, to my professional life... to, well, my confidence in the things which make me me in all areas. And lately, those writings have turned toward now. The moment. The future. Goals. Things which can be done and with whom they can be done with.
Oh, there's a story in the making. I'm looking forward to sharing it with you... no matter how it ends up.
So... back to a co-habitation, or a marriage, or an engagement, or a civil union...
What questions should you ask before you pop that question, walk that aisle... or whatever?
I dug into it... and after checking Reddit, Facebook, and after soliciting some of you for thoughts, I've compiled this list:
First and foremost: You should probably ask if you want kids, what your finances are like, political/religious ideology, and what your general life goals are.
• How much debt do you have? Are you getting further into debt or making ways to get out of it?
• How does your credit look?
• Same checking account? How do we divide the bills?
• Do you have any expensive hobbies?
• How do you feel about having pets?
• Do you like to/want to travel… how much and where?
• Their opinions on children and how to divide child rearing responsibilities.
• Their relationship with each other’s extended families.
• Their opinions on religion and politics
• Each other’s love languages
Think there is anything I'm missing? If so, hit me up, let me know in the comments below... or message me.
I appreaciate I appreciate you more than you know...
#LoveFromToby